Using the toilet

What is typical?

Not all kids are ready at the same age, so it’s important to watch your child for signs of readiness, including:

• understand and use words about using the potty
• keep a nappy dry for 2 hours or more
• get to the potty, sit on it for enough time, and then get off the potty
• pull down nappy, disposable training pants, or underpants
• show an interest in using the potty or wearing underpants

Teaching a toddler to use the potty isn’t an overnight task. It often takes between three and six months, but can take more or less time for some children.

What are the common concerns?

Many kids who’ve been using the potty have some trouble during times of stress. Accidents and setbacks are part of toilet training. See your doctor if your child:

• is not dry during the day by age four.
• is not dry at night by age seven or eight.
• starts having accidents again after previously being toilet trained.
• struggles with constipation.

What can I do?

• Start teaching your child words for going to the toilet.
• Sit your toddler on the toilet or potty for two or three minutes at a time, while they’re getting used to it.
• At first, take them to the toilet 20 to 30 minutes after meals, before and after sleeps and at regular times during the day.
• Once they’re used to going to the toilet, you can ask them if they need to go.
• Be patient and kind while they’re learning. Praise your toddler’s attempts.
• Show your child how to flush the toilet.
• Teach your child to wash their hands.
• Be consistent

Who can I speak to?

If you are concerned about how your child is progressing with toilet training, speak to your general practitioner (GP) or Maternal and Child Health nurse who can provide advice and guidance on toilet training. If your child is having trouble becoming dry at night, a continence therapist can help.