The first day of school is a big milestone in a child’s life, marking the beginning of a new chapter filled with learning, friendships, and growth. However, for many children, the prospect of starting school can bring up feelings of anxiety and nervousness. In this article, we will explore the common signs of starting school anxiety and provide strategies to help parents, caregivers, and educators support children through this transition.
Is your child getting anxious about starting school? Recognising it is the first step:
- Separation Anxiety: Separation anxiety is a common symptom of starting school anxiety, especially in younger children. The idea of being away from familiar caregivers and routines can be scary.
- Social Concerns: Fear of the unknown social environment is another common source of anxiety. Children may worry about making friends, fitting in, or not knowing anyone in their class.
- Fear around learning: Some children may feel anxious about the academic challenges that come with starting school. The fear of not understanding lessons, struggling with homework, or not being as capable as their peers can contribute to anxiety.
- Fear of the Unknown: The uncertainty of what to expect in a new environment can be intimidating. Children may feel anxious about the new teachers, classroom, and daily routines.
Ways you can help ease starting school anxiety:
- Visit the School Beforehand: Being familiar with the school can significantly reduce anxiety. Take your child to visit the school before the first day. Explore the classrooms, playground, and other facilities to make the environment more recognisable.
- Create a Countdown: Build positive excitement by creating a countdown to the first day of school. Make it an exciting event, discussing the fun aspects of school like new friends, interesting subjects, and engaging activities.
- Read Books about Starting School: Reading age-appropriate books about starting school can help children relate to fictional characters experiencing similar emotions. This can be a comforting way to address their concerns.
- Establish a Routine: Structure and routine provide a sense of security. Before school starts, establish a daily routine that includes consistent wake-up times, meals, and bedtime. This predictability can ease anxiety.
- Encourage Independence: Foster a sense of independence by encouraging your child to take care of basic tasks, such as dressing themselves, using the bathroom, and packing their backpack. This boosts confidence and readiness for the school environment.
- Discuss Feelings Openly: Create an open dialogue about your child’s feelings and concerns. Encourage them to express what makes them anxious and validate their emotions. Knowing that their feelings are acknowledged and understood can be reassuring.
- Meet Other Parents and Children: Attend school orientation events or playdates organised by the school. Meeting other parents and children before the first day can help your child recognise familiar faces, making the transition smoother.
- Stay Positive: Maintain a positive and optimistic attitude when discussing school. Highlight the exciting aspects of learning, the potential for making new friends, and the opportunity for personal growth.
- Reassure Regularly: Remind your child that it’s normal to feel nervous about new experiences and that many children share their feelings. Emphasise that teachers and school staff are there to help and ensure a positive learning environment.
- Establish a Goodbye Ritual: Develop a consistent and reassuring goodbye ritual when dropping off your child. This can be a special hug, a secret handshake, or a small routine that signifies love and support.
Starting school anxiety is a common and natural response to a new and unfamiliar experience. By recognising the signs and implementing these strategies, parents and caregivers can play a crucial role in helping children navigate their anxieties and embrace the excitement and opportunities that come with the start of a new school year. Remember, each child is unique, so be patient, understanding, and supportive throughout this significant transition.
Sources: Content compiled from multiple sources including Better Health Channel and Raising Children Network.
Content reviewed by Stockdale Road Primary School and Federation Children’s Centre at Churchill
